“I have been running so sweaty my whole life
Urgent for a finish line
And I have been missing the rapture this whole time
Of being forever incomplete”
— Alanis Morissette, “Incomplete”

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Throughout my life, I have often fallen victim to the allure of “the end goal.” The promise of achievement and success compelling me to “push through” for another 10 minutes, 10 hours, 10 months. I yearned for the moments when I could finally proclaim, “I’ve made it.”

And like many in their twenties, one big goal arrived for me. At 27, after a few twist and turns in my work life, the journey made sense – I was hired to be a website producer for Oprah.com. I was going to work for one of the best and brightest. I can still recall getting the news and saying to myself, “I don’t have to prove myself to anyone anymore.”

I made it. But I was 27 and until you are further down the path, you have no idea just how close to the “start” that age can be. There were more goals, more starts, more desirous finish lines in my future.

I have found destination such a fleeting moment, a transient mark of accomplishment. After reaching one “finish,” another emerges, beckoning me forward.

Within the last decade, because the “finish” is so fleeting, I’ve realized much more time is spent “in the journey.” I have made a conscious decision to shift my mindset and embrace the joy within the journey itself. I immerse myself fully in the present moment. Each step is an opportunity for growth, learning, and self-discovery.

A bonus to relinquishing my focus on the finish lines has been the extra messages from Divine I find, the “magic” of serendipity all around me. Like my literal roadtrips, I allow in the unexpected detours, chance encounters, and unanticipated joys. I’ve experienced moments of bliss in the most unexpected places.

By letting go our urgency for completion and embracing the beauty of the present, we unlock true joy that can accompany every step we take. Let us savor the transformative power of the journeys themselves, knowing that happiness lies not only in the results but the winding paths, unforeseen obstacles, and moments of profound discovery along the way.

I have permission to prioritize self-care and put my well-being first.