“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, “I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.” . . . You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”
– Eleanor Roosevelt, First Lady of the United States
Evening Star

In my youth, “being remarkable” was synonymous with achieving greatness. My pursuit of the extraordinary, the audacious, and the attention-grabbing. To be remarkable meant standing on a pedestal, applauded by a captivated audience. In this, success measured purely by external validation.

Now standing in midlife, I find myself needing to redefine what it means to be remarkable. What does it mean now for me and to me to stand out and be remarkable?

At this juncture, it’s less about grand gestures and more about authenticity, impact, and resilience. The pursuit of external validation gives way to a pursuit of self-awareness, of enriching the lives of those I touch, and of leaving an indelible mark that extends far beyond mere accolades.

Remarkability found in the persistent pursuit of passions, contributing to the betterment of the world, no matter how small the contribution might seem.

As I redefine what being remarkable means, I also realize that the markers of success will be inseparable in this evolution. Success, like remarkability, is no longer solely quantified by external forces.

As I navigate this nuanced terrain, I am guided by the understanding that being remarkable is no longer a static destination but a dynamic state of being. I believe it’s about nurturing the spark within, contributing authentically to the world, and leaving a legacy of positivity and growth. It’s about recognizing the value of ordinary moments that sparkle with a quiet, enduring brilliance.

Will I at 90 though find that enough or rue the day I rationalized settling and lowering expectations on myself? This is the tiny gnawing my ambitious teenage self still inquires, fretting over our legacy this life.

The pursuit of remarkability is not separate from the pursuit of self… being remarkable lies in the delicate balance between self-discovery and purposeful action. Being remarkable now means sharing my vulnerabilities, not as signs of weakness, but as badges of authenticity. The pursuit of external validation has matured into a journey of self-validation.

MANTRA: I am capable of achieving great things and fulfilling my dreams.